I tried to understand them. I wrote stories, trying to imagine what it was like for them. I learned to inhabit other selves, other ages. It helped put things into perspective. And now that I am older, I still do that. I've never had to lose my younger selves—so that's why I am every age I have ever been.
You can waste a perfectly good life trying to meet the standards of someone who thinks you’re not good enough because they can’t understand who you are.